professional home

September 3rd, 2018

It was October 2008. I recently signed the lease on a brand-new suite in a brand-new building on Overland just south of Pico in West Los Angeles. Not only was I a first-generation leaseholder, but I also had the opportunity to design the suite detail upon detail. It turned out to be a rather precarious time in our country, but I kept my focus and ten years later could not be more pleased with my professional home.

Recently, we had some turnover in the suite leaving some space available. In a nutshell, I’m looking for a few part-time therapists who love the space as much as I do and would like to make it their professional home. Here is a description of the suite:

Part-time office space now available in psychotherapy suite designed by therapists for therapists. Full/half days in windowed offices now available in 2-story, modern building. First generation tenants, tastefully-furnished offices, excellent soundproofing, ample parking options, call lights, separate exit, wireless. Call 310.281.8681 or email andrew@westsidetherapist.com.

 

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rest and relaxation

August 22nd, 2018

Rest and relaxation is a lost art. When I was a kid, I had a BFF in my neighborhood who was always available to simply hang out. I would call him on my red rotary phone and ask him, “What are you doing?” and he would typically answer, “Nothing.” So I would respond, “Wanna do nothing together?” and he would always enthusiastically say, “Absolutely. Let’s do nothing together!”

lighthouseNot only was this a true sign of friendship, but it was also an opportunity to hang out together, discover our next adventure and sometimes do very little. I don’t know about you, but I don’t really have friends like that anymore, but the principles remain the same. How do I hang out with myself (or with others) and practice R&R in a quality way on a regular basis?

Recently, I spent time with my family of choice in the San Juan Islands off of Seattle. It’s become a summer retreat where I get to do nothing for a week. As a matter of fact, I work really hard to do as little as possible. Because I tend to be a to-do list kind of guy, it takes mindful effort to decompress and truly relax. And this has become an integral part of the rhythm of my yearly calendar.

You see, I don’t see these retreats as optional anymore. They help me push the re-set button so I can do what I do as a healing professional. I know this goes against the Puritanical work ethic many of us learned so well, but unwinding and decompressing is a necessary part of my work which gives me the capacity to be more present and more refreshed when I return to the office.

In the rooms of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, they refer to top-line behaviors as anything that feeds the soul and encourages emotional sobriety. It’s not just an exercise to develop a list of possibilities, but a mandate to start practicing them on a consistent basis.

For example, one of the top-line behaviors I regularly practice is daily meditation. For many years I dabbled in meditation but never found traction with a regular practice. What finally worked for me was enrolling in a Mindfulness Meditation class with a focus on stress reduction (aka MBSR). And this class provided structure, accountability as well as the motivation of a financial investment. All of these things worked well for me, and after a few months of practice while having a teacher encouraging me, it finally stuck.

My morning ritual is simple. I sit quietly on my cushion in a designated space in my home. Then I read one page from an inspirational book as well as a morning prayer that resonates with me. I then sit for ten minutes. As a recovering perfectionist, I try not to beat myself up for not sitting longer, but instead I try and honor myself for the time I do commit to sitting.

This is the tone-setter for my day. I feel the difference when I skip my morning ritual, and my day tends to flow easier when I engage in this sacred morning space. For me, mindful meditation is one way to regulate my nervous system and to breathe into the knowledge that I’m simply a living, breathing organism just like all the other human beings on our planet. Humbling, but true.

I forgot to mention that my cocker spaniel, Bowie sits (or sleeps) in the room with me as he patiently waits for our morning walk, and his presence is also quite regulating for me and my nervous system. Whether you find ways of self-regulating or mutually-regulating, your system relaxes when you feel more trusting of yourself, others and your environment.

Another simple tool is to monitor your work habits. As a recovering workaholic, I try not to do anything work-related on Sundays. That is my day to rest and relax, and I encourage you to stay away from your computer, work-related activities or anything task-driven.

These are simply a few tips to unwind, decompress and push the re-set button. It’s taken me a long time to get to the point where I truly prioritize R&R, but now I know it’s a requirement to live the life I choose to live. You may stumble and fumble along the way, but give yourself the space for rest and relaxation and see what happens.

the positive psychology of sex addiction

July 24th, 2018

Traditionally, twelve-step programs describe addiction with borrowed language from the medical model such as disease, illness, and even the word addiction itself. Yet, there’s less shameful and stigmatizing ways to talk about it.

In 1998, Dr. Marty Seligman, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania coined the term Positive Psychology, and a like-minded, international community of researchers came out of the woodwork. Not only did they open the door to expanded research in this brand-new field, but they also paved the way toward its application toward addictive and compulsive behaviors.

Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with clients, Positive Psychologists began to talk about what’s right. Exploring strengths became center stage, and existential-spiritual questions such as “What gives you a reason to wake up in the morning”? and “What makes life worth living?” became part of the new dialogue.

Positive Psychology is a future-focused, action-oriented, wellness model focusing on purpose, resilience and regulation. Rather than solely focusing on deficits, resourcefulness and signature strengths get fully explored. And these are essential ingredients for long-term sustainable recovery.

As a recovering sex addict, you chose to stop your out-of-control behaviors and began to experience a bigger life with greater possibilities. In early recovery, you acknowledged your tendencies to self-attack and self-sabotage, and eventually, it was time to leverage your resources and identify your deeper wants and desires. Milestones of long-term recovery include: emotional sobriety, meaningful connection, gratitude, joy and contentment—all elements related to Positive Psychology.

Sex addiction fellowships tend to be smaller than established groups like AA resulting in fewer old-timers in the rooms. As a result, newcomers often focus more on the problem rather than the solution. Taking the lead from oldtimers as well as Positive Psychology, it would be remarkable to see what would happen if meetings would focus more on purpose, priorities and possibilities.

I once heard a chaplain describe spirituality as “whatever gives your life meaning.” Because Positive Psychology describes meaning and engagement as pillars of happiness, those in recovery are challenged to investigate this territory. As recovery deepens, ask yourself, “What brings meaning and engagement to my recovery?”

In addition to traditional resentment inventories, develop a joy and gratitude inventory to counterbalance your fourth step. Begin with an early memory of joy or gratitude, and list as many memories as possible. Focus on positive life events to carve out new neural pathways as well as greater awareness of pleasant life events.

Deepak Chopra’s book Overcoming Addiction states that the absence of joy is the cause and the effect of addiction. This reminds us that joy can be a safety net from future problematic behaviors. As joy becomes a practice, here is a litmus test for you. Does this person, place, thing or experience nourish or deplete you? Ask yourself this question, and it will reveal what belongs in your life or not.

Twelve-step wisdom reminds you that there are Three S’s—service, spirituality and self-care—all fundamental elements leading to greater contentment. Being of service is an antidote to the self-centeredness of addiction. Because addictions are narcissistic by definition, shifting toward other-centeredness breaks the cycle.

Spirituality does not have to be a place of worship or any type of dogma. I believe there are more questions than there are answers so keep asking the big ticket questions, and don’t feel pressure to have specific answers. Keep it simple and try not to pressure yourself to clearly define what gives your life meaning.

Impeccable self-care might seem to contradict the idea of being of service, yet how can you be there for others if you don’t take good care of yourself? Just like on a plane, you need to put the oxygen mask on yourself first. Because you’ve had gaps in the parenting you received, now is a time to re-parent yourself and receive loving parenting from others.

Celebrate your sexual self. Because any type of touch could be sexualized in the past, it’s essential to discover ways to touch and be touched safely. Hugs, cuddling and therapeutic massage are just a few examples of practicing safer touch, and each of these possibilities can help you experience safe physical intimacy and body awareness rather than keeping you in old patterns. Discuss your options with a confidant.

“What matters most to you”? “What is something that puts a smile on your face”? By identifying core values, passions and priorities, you’ll develop purposeful action steps. Once you establish your vision, find an accountability partner to stay on track with your heart’s intentions.

Neuroplasticity describes how synaptic connections in the brain expand through focus and attention. For example, if you get stuck in shame and resentment, synaptic connections multiply around these well-worn paths. If you focus on joy, gratitude and well-being, your brain creates brand-new neural pathways pointing you toward deeper contentment and connection.

Positive Psychology opens the aperture to endless possibilities. It’s not meant to be a stand-alone approach, but it adds a fresh dimension to explore and develop happiness and purpose. Now apply it to your recovery and see what happens.

the evolution of brainspotting

June 12th, 2018

When I finished graduate school in the early 90’s, there was a shortage of clinical tools to effectively treat trauma. Many times, clients would share their stories of anguish, and instead of feeling better, they would end up feeling worse. As a newer therapist, I felt helpless alongside my clients as we often hit a wall together.

Most of my clients came to my office with a history of some type of trauma, whether they knew it or not. Sometimes they would experience relief, but more times than not, we would end up feeling stuck. In the 90’s, a tremendous paradigm shift began that changed the way many therapists now look at trauma. With the introduction of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) developed by Francine Shapiro and SE (Somatic Experiencing) created by Peter Levine, trauma healing and the regulation of the nervous system became center stage.

In 2003, a New York psychologist named David Grand founded Brainspotting, and this brain-body approach added a brand-new dimension to the trauma healing community. Because I come from a “talk therapy” background, I never envisioned myself doing “somatic therapy”, but for my clients and my practice, it’s been transformative.

Several years ago, some of my favorite colleagues completed the SE training, and I witnessed their practices and their nervous systems change. So I registered for the first weekend module, and three years later, I became certified in SE and finally felt more equipped to effectively work with the nervous systems of my clients.

More recently, Brainspotting was strongly recommended to me so I added this to my somatic toolbox. On a flight to the East Coast, I read the book Brainspotting written by Dr. Grand, and I was convinced. He was an early proponent of EMDR until he stumbled upon Brainspotting which utilizes a fixed point of processing rather than eye movement. For more information, visit www.brainspottinglosangeles.org. Dr. Grand found out that “where you look affects how you feel,” and his approach utilizing the visual field created an exciting, new tool to complement SE.

Brainspotting, a user-friendly book by Dr. Grand, is recommended for both therapists and clients. Now that I’ve been utilizing Brainspotting with my clients for a few years, I see the tremendous healing my clients experience. So what exactly is Brainspotting?

With brain-body based therapies, you’ll find an opportunity to build somatic awareness and to regulate your nervous system. As a result, you’ll gain greater capacity to feel more like yourself more of the time and address all kinds of mental health challenges.

Talk therapy engages your neocortex–your thinking, conscious brain–while somatic therapy (e.g. Brainspotting and SE) accesses your subcortical system where trauma and distress is often stored. Current research in neuroscience reveals that painful memories can get stuck in the non-verbal, non-cognitive subcortical brain which gets in the way of living fully in the here and now. In other words, if an event is too much to process at the time, it gets shelved in the subcortex. Brainspotting harnesses the brain’s natural healing process by utilizing the visual field to accelerate healing.

In addition to specific and developmental trauma, Brainspotting has also shown effectiveness with issues such as:
• anxiety — including OCD, panic attacks and phobias
• depression
• addictive & compulsive behaviors
• unprocessed grief
• chronic pain and injuries
• creativity and performance blocks

Dysregulation describes the disruption of the nervous system: up-regulation refers to internal states such as panic attacks or rage, and down-regulation refers to internal states such as depression or dissociation. Either way, it’s an imbalance in the nervous system, one of the greatest challenges in our culture because dysregulation often becomes the norm.

Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing and author of Waking the Tiger reminds us that any disturbance to the nervous system requires focused attention to regulate once again. When you’re dysregulated most of the time, you’re more likely to develop persistent, systemic symptoms such as fibromyalgia, migraines or irritable bowel syndrome.

Somatic therapies offer portable tools such as tracking sensations, grounding and orienting to help you build nervous system awareness. The nervous system is divided into two parts —the sympathetic and parasympathetic branches. The sympathetic branch tells you when to fight, flee or freeze, and the parasympathetic system focuses on resting and digesting.

When your nervous system becomes over-activated or under-activated, your inner state tries to find its equilibrium. When you feel dysregulated, it’s understandable that you want to do anything to get out of emotional pain. You’ll start to look for more ways to escape painful feelings, and the cycle continues.
In order for balance and regulation to become a safe, productive choice, you’ll need to experience resiliency and buoyancy as pleasurable, and it needs to become a daily self-regulation practice. You might begin with meditation, journaling or spending quality time with your pet.

Finding your way back to a regulated state more efficiently is a powerful antidote to dysregulation. From a regulated state, you’ll experience deeper contact with yourself and others. On the other hand, dysregulation results in isolation and disconnection. Because humans are biologically-wired for connection, regular contact with emotionally-dependable people is a key toward intimacy, deeper connection and mutual regulation.

If you’re interested in more detailed information about SE or Brainspotting, visit www.brainspotting.com or www.traumahealing.com. On these websites, you’ll find directories with certified practitioners in your area. And you’ll be on your way to a cutting-edge approach to trauma healing and more.

group therapy revisited

May 11th, 2018

“Since I joined group, I don’t feel so alone anymore—now I know there are others who want the best for me.” I hear this sentiment over and over again from clients who commit to weekly group therapy—a place to both learn about oneself while helping others learn about themselves. Clients typically come to group because they have longings for deeper contact, and group is where they get to take risks, be vulnerable, and as a result, experience deeper connection.

In the early ‘80s, my dad was part of a men’s therapy group in Philadelphia. I was in high school at the time and didn’t really understand why he attended these mysterious meetings. Because we lived in a somewhat sheltered suburb in South Jersey, it seemed quite revolutionary that he would travel into the city every Tuesday night to meet with a diverse group of men. All I knew is that he was devoted to this weekly ritual, and he returned home with a more optimistic outlook. After five years of going to his men’s group, my father built up the courage to separate from my mother and start a new life for himself. Discovering his true voice allowed him to make a bold decision after thirty years of marriage, and this was a formative event in the history of my family and my life.

In the late ‘80s I started graduate school at UCLA to study clinical social work, and in 1992 I became an associate in a busy private practice in Los Angeles where I was asked to lead a men’s psychotherapy group. How ironic—I was now leading a men’s group after my dad’s influential experience as a group member just a few years earlier. Although I felt as if I was treading water at times, I slowly built up clinical muscle and returned every Wednesday night for eight more years—and this turned out to be one of my most significant growth experiences both personally and professionally.

Through the course of my career, I’ve led several long-term therapy groups, and today, I call them interpersonal process groups with an emphasis on here-and-now relationships in the room. As a former group leader of many types of groups, I firmly believe in the therapeutic nature of the group experience, but nowadays, I view the groups in my practice through a process group lens.
With that said, here are some of the typical themes that emerge during a group session:
• Relationship Challenges
• Trauma
• Anxiety and Depression
• Addictions and Codependency
• Career and Money
• Shame and Loneliness
• Sex and Sexuality

When I meet a client for the first time, I’m already assessing his eventual appropriateness for group. Once a client has identified and started to explore the issues that brought them into therapy, it may be time to introduce the possibility of joining a group. There’s no cookie-cutter approach to the timing of a client considering group therapy, but I always hold this possibility for the client if my instincts tell me that they would benefit from a group experience. Because most of my individual clients know that I lead groups, they may initiate interest, or I may plant a seed about future group membership. Although I may be eager to transition a client into group, I always need to check in with myself to make sure that the client wants group more than I want it for them.

Here are a few questions that may reveal whether a client is ready to participate effectively in a group:
• Is the client able to offer empathy and attunement?
• Is the client able to receive empathy and attunement?
• Does the client appear enthusiastic about a group experience?
• Is the client interested in developing more honest, satisfying relationships with others?
• How does the client respond to conflict and/or anger?
• Is the client willing to comply with group guidelines?

In order to foster longevity in therapy groups, the following ingredients will promote greater trust and safety:
• Cultivating honest relationships with the members of the group and the group therapist.
• Giving and receiving clear, honest feedback.
• Understanding one’s impact on others.
• Accessing and articulating one’s internal world.
• Exploring deeper longings and desires.
• Assessing sexuality and sexual expression.
• Expressing anger safely and productively.
• Acknowledging and processing shame.

Bringing together a therapy group requires perseverance from the group therapist, but it can also be one of the richest clinical experiences. Clients learn how to be more fully themselves with one another—a rare transformation that far transcends the challenges group formation requires. Having led therapy groups since 1992, I remain deeply grateful for the opportunity to learn and grow along side my clients. As my dad shared with me many years ago, “my group helped me reclaim my life.”

rethinking infidelity

April 15th, 2018

Esther Perel’s recent release “The State of Affairs” is a masterful look at relationships in the 21st century—masterful because it invites us to think outside the proverbial box. Not only does it focus on the intricacies of infidelity, but it also explores the state of intimate relationships in our world today. When I read Esther Perel’s previous book, “Mating in Captivity”, it opened the aperture on working with intimacy and desire with couples in my practice. Her refreshing, internationally-infused perspective introduced an expansive clinical dialogue, and once again, Perel offers us a unique angle on infidelity, exclusivity and every imaginable variation.

“Affairs have a lot to teach us about relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to.” And this is the premise of her research and her work. Affairs come in all shapes and sizes, but do we punish one another or offer opportunities for growth and learning? Keep in mind that Perel’s definition of affairs includes one or more of the following: secrecy, sexual alchemy, and emotional involvement, and it only requires one of these ingredients. Yet, infidelity is a much larger window including sexual infidelities, emotional affairs, compulsive use of porn, strip clubs or erotic massage. The list goes on and on.

One of the primary themes of “State of Affairs” is the opportunity to learn from infidelity rather than being sentenced to wearing the Scarlet Letter. Perel makes a clear distinction between shame and guilt. “Shame is a state of self-absorption, while guilt is an empathic, relational response, inspired by the hurt you have caused another. In the aftermath of betrayal, authentic guilt, leading to remorse is an essential repair tool.” Again, her healing focus is on movement toward repair—not pouring more salt into the wound.

Shame is like quicksand, as clients often lose themselves in the experience of feeling defective. If not addressed, shame often cycles into resentment and despair. Yet, excavating the layers beneath the suffering can be a productive process toward shame resiliency, and in turn, the recognition of guilt often becomes a more useful emotion–promoting connection rather than division.

Perel emphasizes how infidelity is a growth opportunity for the couple if they’re open-hearted enough to do the deeper work on themselves and their relationship. When a couple makes the courageous choice to work on their relationship after an infidelity, Perel feels that the person who had the affair needs to explicitly re-commit to the partner and express the deep value of the other person and the relationship.

The mental health community is divided about disclosure after an affair. Some clinicians believe in full disclosure and some do not. Perel offers a wise clinical suggestion when it comes to sharing the details of an affair. “Respect is not necessarily about telling all, but about considering what it will be like for the other to receive the knowledge.” In other words, disclosure is not a one-size fits all process. Before you unload onto an unsuspecting partner, consider, whose well-being are you really thinking of? And what is your partner supposed to do with this information?” It’s a delicate moment requiring meticulous assessment and thoughtful planning with the couple.

Disclosure is often used as a therapeutic tool with couples recovering from sex addiction. Many couples have found healing through this approach, yet others have been harmed or even re-traumatized. There isn’t an absolute right or wrong approach, but it’s a significant decision not to be taken lightly. As much as our training and experience may be extensive, we’re still learning, and a dose of humility goes a long way as we grow beside our clients.

Perel also writes at length about couples who love each other, who are devoted to one another, but have never been able to stay faithful. There is a myth that infidelity is always connected to dissatisfaction in the relationship. But this isn’t true. The reasons for betrayal are limitless but not always related to the relationship itself.

In her practice, Perel asks the unfaithful party to work through all rationalizations—stories that have been constructed to justify continuing the infidelities. She suggests this three-part method:
1. Take RESPONSIBILITY for the hurtful behavior—the way he rationed his closeness by only giving her a fragment of his divided self.
2. Be VULNERABLE about his own proclivities and how for years he justified it to himself at her expense.
3. Pour out his LOVE for her and fight for their relationship.

Instead of writing an inventory of offenses often utilized in sex addiction treatment–Perel suggests a Love Letter instead. Not that this takes the betrayer off the hook—the betrayer still needs to be accountable for their actions, but the minute details of the transgressions may not always be necessary. Perel often asks partners, “Do you really want the answer to your question, or do you want your partner to know that you have the question? It’s okay if you don’t want all the details. Let him carry the burden of that knowledge and take responsibility for figuring out who he wants to be as a man, as a person.”

Not only is “The State of Affairs” intended to enlighten mental health professionals, but it’s also written in such a way that is helpful and meaningful for clients. Whether you specialize in couples therapy or not, this book spells out the complex challenges and genuine opportunities that reveal themselves in “affairs that are universally forbidden yet universally practiced.”

soul-searching

March 20th, 2018

It’s been fourteen years since I’ve collaborated face-to-face with my coach, and I’ve just returned from Asheville, North Carolina after a very productive and revitalizing two-day intensive with Sandra “Sam” Foster, PhD. As I’ve mentioned, Sam is on the faculty of the College of Executive Coaching where I became a certified coach in 2002. I’ve been seeking her wisdom and support on and off since then, and once again, it felt like an opportune moment to spend some high-quality time together as we explored the next leg of my professional journey.

The outcome of my coaching experience with Sam is always similar—I return inspired, refreshed and grounded. Coaching is partially about goal-setting, values clarification and accountability, but it’s also an existential and sometimes spiritual collaboration, as I choose to re-visit my purpose and mission within my practice and related to my upcoming book project.

Through powerful questions and honest conversations, I was able to distinguish between my Wanna do’s and my Supposed to’s. It became evident to me that they blend at times, but my supposed to’s often feel heavy and obligatory where my wanna do’s create ease and lightness. Because I have a lot of interests both professionally and personally—a high-quality problem— I can sometimes stretch myself too thin. And this leaves me with less focus and attention available for my higher priorities.

I also went into the weekend with the hope of mapping out the next ten years of my professional life infused with some personal intentions as well. Although ten years turned out to be too much of a stretch, I did map out the next five years and feel relief and hope as I now see where my true priorities lie, and how I can keep my sanity and balance intact along the way.

As I anticipate the unfolding of my current book project in 2019, I felt compelled to examine my heart’s desire for my home life, my professional life and beyond. As a result, it reminds me to keep self-care in the forefront no matter what. Coaching has always provided me with a touchstone for what matters most to me—also known as values—and this past weekend steered me in that direction seamlessly.

As a result of my soul-searching discussions with Sam, I now feel more freedom and clarity to say Yes, No, or Maybe to the limitless menu of options in front of me. Not that anything has to happen, but simply what could happen—a reminder Sam has shared with me since we first met in 2001.
It also became clear to me that all future choices and decisions have to originate from Love and Ease. As a result of Sam’s reflections and provocative questions, I now know that love and ease will be a litmus test as I venture back into my practice this week and beyond. Expert coaching infused with the wisdom of Positive Psychology is truly the gift that keeps giving as Sam continues to walk beside me in this uncharted territory.

coaching and positive psychology

March 13th, 2018

In 2001 I completed an 18-month coach training program which helped turn the course of my clinical career. In the 90′s I was trained very traditionally as a psychodynamically-oriented, family systems informed therapist. At the time I found the training and the clinical work very challenging and helpful to my clients, but something changed inside of me.

I had been working part-time in private practice and part-time for a local health management organization, and little by little, I was feeling more burnt out. I knew I needed to leave the HMO but didn’t know exactly how or when to do it. I saw an announcement for a 1-day seminar on the principles of coaching given by a Southern California psychologist, and the light bulb went on. Coaching encompassed theories including Rogers, Adler, and Maslow, and it focused on strengths and resources rather than deficits. This newly-coined theory called Positive Psychology was a breath of fresh air that didn’t replace my former theoretical orientation but complemented it seamlessly.

I then met Sandra “Sam” Foster, PhD who taught a class on Peak Performance, and immediately I felt that Sam was speaking my language in an inspirational and clinically-sound way. I asked Sam if she would be my coach which was part of the requirements of the program, and her influence has stayed with me to this day. Not only did she believe in me in ways I couldn’t believe in myself, but she helped me open creative doors that I never imagined. In 2004 she helped me envision a workbook which became a reality years later (“From Now On: Seven Keys to Purposeful Recovery”).

This weekend I’m fortunate enough to be traveling to Asheville, North Carolina to work with Sam once again as I give shape and voice to my current book project (more details to follow!) In my 27-year career I’ve been blessed with a few fantastic mentors including Sam. And in turn, I also get to give back what I’ve been given.

open house

March 9th, 2018

It’s been 10 years since we moved into our professional home that I now call the “Overland Suite”, and what a great excuse to bring together friends, family and colleagues to celebrate a decade in our terrific healing space. Our Open House will take place on Sunday April 15th at 11am, and we welcome all of you to come on over for a bagel and coffee as well as wonderful camaraderie. We’re located at 2550 Overland Avenue, Suite 100 in Los Angeles (90064) just three blocks south of Pico near the Westside Pavilion. No need to RSVP–I do hope you can join us.

2018 Annual Group Therapy Conference (4/27 & 4/28)

March 7th, 2018

On Friday April 27th and Saturday April 28th, the Group Psychotherapy Association of Los Angeles (GPALA) will be hosting its Spring Conference at the American Jewish University on Mulholland Drive. I will be a small group leader throughout the weekend event as we explore ethnic and racial identities and differences, and I want to personally invite all therapists to consider joining us. Here is the full description of the 2018 conference:

Callin’ In Race: Finding Words, Finding Courage in Group

Presented by Christine Schmidt and Rudy Lucas

Course Description:

Racism in the United States is uniquely structured in such a way that inequities based on the spurious notion of visible ethnic/racial difference are woven into the fabric of our society. Racism impacts our relationships, often beyond our awareness. Internalized racial oppression heightens our differences, yet we yearn for connection with others to heal personal and societal ills. As social beings, we are drawn to groups whether in therapeutic settings or communities.

This conference will offer group leaders an opportunity to learn how our racial identities are consciously and unconsciously transformed through personal interactions. Group leaders nourish responsive groups by being able to identify and respond to colorblindness, racially encoded dog whistle language and micro-aggressions with honesty and openness. Once limiting racial taboos are spoken aloud they lose their toxicity. As we expand our skills about racial dynamics, we confidently foster cohesion in groups by making space for every member to be visible and heard.

Each person attending the Conference participates in a small group experience that meets three times over the course of the two days and is led by an experienced senior member of GPALA. The purpose of this activity is to provide everyone an in vivo group experience, reminding us of our clients’ position as group members and to expose us to a different style of group facilitation.

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