Archive for July, 2009

my people

July 30th, 2009

As I continue to “get the word out” about coaching and Recovery Coaching, it seems to me that there are those who get it and those who don’t.  It’s always clear when someone gets it–it’s as if a light bulb goes on above their head and they have been “turned on” to the idea of how coaching works and how it can possibly benefit them and/or their clients.  These are the folks I call “my people”.

The other group, of course, is those who don’t get it.  These are not “my people.”  As a colleague of mine once told me, “it’s my job in life to find my people.” And then it’s essential to cultivate those strategic alliances.

As we continue to educate the world about coaching, I feel it’s my calling to be an educator and to be one of the many voices among voices sharing our passion for Recovery Coaching and its tremendous value to the world.

the three bears

July 18th, 2009

July 18, 2009

Coaching those in early recovery takes patience.  Patience on the part of the client and patience on the part of the coach.  I relate this to the children’s story “Goldilocks and the Three Bears”.  If the coaching goes too quickly, it may be too much, too soon.  If the coaching moves too slowly, it may create no energy and go nowhere.  But the art is finding the right temperature and moving together at the right pace whatever that may be.  This may take some trial and error but ultimately allows the client to find their true rhythm at this point in their recovery.

Traditionally addicts tend to seek immediate gratification and want everything yesterday — so it may be helpful to take a moment to explain to them your respect for where they are in their recovery and the reason that you’re helping them find their pace even if it does feel a bit slow at times.  Creating stretch goals but also looking at ways to stay grounded and realistic is also part of the new balance they will experience as they experiment with how it feels to accomplish their goals in sobriety.

Early recovery is a time of discovery.  A time of experiencing oneself as capable and competent possibly for the first time in a very long time — if ever.

greater than myself

July 11th, 2009

July 11. 2009

Through the years I’ve always grappled with the meaning of God or a Higher Power in my life, but recently it seems that the words, “a power greater than myself” have taken on a new, fresh meaning.  Getting out of my own way and making room for something more is all I really have to do.

I feel like my connection to something bigger than me has been growing over these past 15 years and even before that, but recently the words tend to vibrate in a different way than ever before.  It seems that I’m more open-hearted to the limitless possibilities of what this means in my life, and as a result, I know on a deeper level that I truly know so little.

It’s certainly been freeing and humbling to surrender in this way, and I feel so grateful for the chance to not only notice when this connection is present but to cultivate this relationship in ways that liberate me to be more of who I am.  Whether it be nature, loved ones, pets or the wisdom of those in program, really taking in the gifts of connectedness to the world as we experience it is where vitality grows.