Archive for June, 2015

trauma resiliency

June 29th, 2015

This past weekend I attended the 3-day TRM (Trauma Resiliency Model) training here in Culver City, and I would recommend it to any colleague interested in working with trauma and the nervous system. Because I completed the 3-year Somatic Experiencing (SE) training almost 7 years ago, I felt it was time for a refresher course, and this really hit the spot for me.

Developed by Elaine Miller-Karas, TRM feels like a spinoff of SE, and she was the first one to share that she gets to stand on the shoulders of others who came before her. I really appreciated Elaine’s ego-less approach to teaching, and her enthusiasm and passion for the model are palpable. The basic skills of “tracking, resourcing and grounding” are all familiar to me, but the languaging is a bit different such as helping clients build awareness about their “resiliency zone” as Elaine calls it.

With all trauma models, it’s essential to practice these skills and to utilize consultation from those who are more seasoned with this approach. All in all, I’m doing my best to adopt a “Beginner’s Mind” as I integrate TRM into my repertoire of what I bring to all my clients–those who identify with addictions and trauma and those who do not.

rethinking infidelity

June 15th, 2015

If you have a chance, check out the TEDTALK entitled Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity. She offers a refreshing, no-nonsense look at infidelity and affairs that moves us out of the “black and white thinking” and into an honest, thought-provoking and complex dialogue.

Because infidelity happens today in so many shapes and forms (e.g. internet porn, emotional affairs, sexting, paid sex, etc), it often gets lumped together into something “bad” that has to be fixed. As Esther Perel shares adamantly, it may be a crisis for the marriage and the individuals, but it’s also an opportunity to grow and learn and re-commit to the relationship if you choose.

Not only do I agree with most of her views, but I also believe she is expanding a stale conversation into a search for meaning and re-connection. Apparently, she is going to release a new book on this subject, and I am eager to see what she shares in it. Keep the dialogue flowing…