Archive for July, 2015

90 years young

July 25th, 2015

I have a friend named Will (aka Brother Will) who is a monk at Mount Calvary Monastery in Santa Barbara. Will turned ninety this month, and we had the opportunity to share a delicious Italian lunch with a mutual friend in Montecito and enjoy one another’s company on a rather unusual rainy day here in Southern California. Will’s spirit is strong and vibrant, and he still hikes in Rattlesnake Canyon but possibly a tad bit slower than in the past.

I’ve known Will for many years as part of the retreats I’ve attended at Mount Calvary–both at the old site up the mountain and now down by the Mission. His humor, joie de vivre, and perspectives on life always put a smile on my face and remind me of the gratitude I have for our friendship as well as the many, many retreat experiences I’ve had up there. Will is truly an inspiration in my life and for many others who cross his path.

sexual recovery institute

July 18th, 2015

The Sexual Recovery Institute of Los Angeles (SRI) recently celebrated its 20th anniversary, and at the same time it has announced that it will be closing its doors. Founded by Robert Weiss, LCSW,CSAT, it was known as a go-to program for those whose sexually compulsive behaviors had spun out of control. As far as I know, it was one of the first outpatient programs available for sex addiction and started a trend toward developing more outpatient programs here in L.A. as well as on a national level.

Because Rob worked side by side with Patrick Carnes at Del Amo Hospital prior to opening SRI, he had firsthand training from the original pioneer in this field. Through the years many sex addiction specialists worked with Rob at SRI (including myself), and many of them started their own programs as well. It’s a bittersweet ending for a program that seemed to hold the compass for sex addiction treatment locally, but the baton has been passed to many others in these two decades. Treatment for sexual compulsivity has not only evolved into a more sophisticated approach but has also been infused into more and more private practices based on the training and consultation SRI and Rob Weiss have provided through the years.

I wish Rob and all of the talented clinicians at SRI all the best with this next chapter.


July 4th, 2015

As the country celebrates Independence Day, I feel compelled to acknowledge the recent Supreme Court Decision for Marriage Equality in all 50 states. In my lifetime I never thought I would see such a clear statement for equal rights, civil rights and human rights. When the top court in our country declares that marriage is equally available to all, it gives me hope that more equality is on its way whether it be for women, people of color, physically-challenged or psychiatrically-impaired just to name a few.

Because I’ve had the opportunity to get to know a few other cultures around the world with their priorities in order, I’ve been disillusioned at times with the status quo here in America, but maybe there is more room for change and surprises. For the sake of the upcoming generations, I hope that this turning point is one of many turning points to come. Let freedom ring!