Archive for September, 2016


September 28th, 2016

Without getting too political, we are living in a country of polarities as exemplified by our two presidential candidates and the people who support them. Addiction is also about black and white, rigid “stinkin’ thinkin’. It leaves people polarized and often isolated from one another.

On the other hand, recovery is about humility and tolerance of the “gray” rather than the extremes. It’s an opportunity to be open-hearted to other’s opinions and perspectives without reacting or retaliating.

Polarities divide and recovery fosters community. Which do you choose to practice today?

group institute

September 20th, 2016

My colleague and talented group leader, Maria Gray, LMFT and I are hosting a two-day “Group Institute” on October 15th and 16th from 9:30 – 4:30PM in our West Los Angeles office.

This is a chance for clients and/or clinicians to get their feet wet and immerse themselves in a group therapy experience without having to sign up for a longer commitment. This is a finite, short term weekend experience, and this institute is open to anyone who is interested in delving into the world of group therapy—

For more information, please visit and we hope to see you there.

east vs. west

September 16th, 2016

Last weekend I was in Provincetown, Mass. for the first time in 30 years. My memories of my previous visit were rather vague but it all came back to me once I arrived. For those of you who are not familiar with this historic town where the pilgrims settled, it is on the very end of Cape Cod so it feels like it’s at the very end of the United States as we know it.

Because I went to college in Western Massachusetts, it has a very fond place in my heart that will always feel like home. The east coast, in general will always feel like home even though I’ve been a transplant to the West Coast since 1988. But what is home? For me– home is where the love is. I’ve learned through the years that the broken-heartedness of addictions can only be fully healed through the love that we give and receive.

In essence, it doesn’t matter whether I am East or West, it only matters how I carry others within me and how I cultivate the love in my life. I am very fortunate to have love on both coasts and I try not to take that for granted. We are biologically wired for connection and we are biologically wired for love. It’s a lifelong healing and a healing that is part of our daily mindfulness if we choose to live there.