Where you end and the other begins
admin September 22nd, 2009
Someone once told me that one way of envisioning boundaries is “where you end and the other begins.” This seems like a clear visual of knowing how to differentiate between yourself and others. Part of recovery is about establishing healthier boundaries, and this is a challenge and an opportunity to discover your availability in relationships and how to navigate requests. Asking yourself the question “How do I choose to be available?” instead of “What do others want from me?” can be a clear place to start.
Most of us have generosity of spirit within us, but if our generosity turns into self-neglect, it usually leads to resentment and burnout leaving you ineffectual to everyone. To truly bring your quality self to the table, think about what will leave you feeling balanced and peaceful with your choices. Will this leave you feeling serene or depleted? A lot to consider, but worthwhile as you determine your availability–emotionally, physically and spiritually. Don’t be afraid to be of service–one of the greatest tools of recovery–but check it out within yourself before you move forward.
