Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning. Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and co-dependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken-heartedness. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bear their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.

From Now On

Recovery from addiction is not a cookie-cutter process. Every addict experiences addiction differently, and every addict has a unique path of recovery. This workbook will complement your existing approaches to recovery whether they are 12-step programs, treatment centers, psychotherapy, and/or coaching.

Purposeful recovery is a hybrid term to describe another dimension of addiction recovery which isn’t always emphasized in the traditional places where one receives support. By using a strengths-based approach derived from both coaching and positive psychology, you ll have the opportunity to revitalize dormant aspects of yourself. As a result, the possibilities of adding deeper meaning and clearer direction to your recovery will expand and become more and more evident to you.

The exercises in this book will help you stretch beyond your comfort zone as you move into the next chapter of recovery. Thinking bigger than ever before will reveal limitless possibilities as you create purpose and direction.


It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews experts who share fresh perspectives and strategies for other clinicians as well as those in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors.

Ep. 1 Troubled Couples – Leslie Quinn, LMFT

Ep. 2 Chemsex – David Fawcett, Ph.D

Ep. 3  It’s Not About the Sex – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 4 Emotional Sobriety – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 5 Sex Coaching – Dr. Patti Britton

Ep. 6 The Gratitude of Loss – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 7 EMDR Therapy – Claudia Lewis, LMFT

Ep. 8  Shame Resiliency – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 9 Is 12-Step The Only Option? – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 10  Narcissism and Sex Addiction – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 11 Group Therapy – Nancy Sobel, Psy.D.

Ep. 12 The Rhythm Within – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 13 Regulating the Nervous System – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 14 Formal Disclosure – Marty Simpson, LMFT, CSAT

Ep. 15 Cultivating Contentment – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 16 Treating Partners – Carol Jeurgensen Sheets, LCSW, CSAT

Ep. 17 Sexual Healing – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 18 Childhood Trauma and Sexual Healing – Jan Bergstrom, LHMC

Ep. 19 Breaking Down the Walls – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 20 Somatic Experiencing – Blair Smith, LMFT, SEP 

Ep. 21 Codependency and Boundaries – Susskind and Merlino 

Ep. 22 Prodependence – Robert Weiss, Ph.D., MSW

Ep. 23 Meaning, Purpose and Legacy – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 24 Relationship Coaching for Betrayed Partners – Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, SEP

Ep. 25 Coping with Covid-19 – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 26 Career Coaching and Recovery – Daisy Swan

Ep. 27 Forgiveness and Addiction – Susskind and Merlino

Ep. 28 Healthy Sex – Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D.

Ep. 29 Guided Relaxation – Andrew Susskind

Ep. 30 Psychopharmacology and Addiction Recovery – Matthew Goldenberg, D.O. 

Ep. 31 Self-Compassion and Mindful Recovery – Jen Davis, AMFT

Ep. 32 Covid-Stamina – Susskind and Merlino

EP. 33 Queer Codependency – Grace Riddell, LICSW and Barry McNinch, MS

EP. 34 Anger as an Ally – Susskind and Merlino

EP. 35 Inner Child Recovery Process – Eddie Capparucci, LPC

Guest Appearances

Life in Recovery Podcast with Ren Koi

Sober Nation with Jonathan Sylvester

Sex, Love, and Addiction with Robert Weiss, MSW, PhD

Sex Help with Carol the Coach with Carol Sheets, LCSW

Inner Voice-Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan


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