Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning. Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and co-dependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken-heartedness. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bear their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.

From Now On

Recovery from addiction is not a cookie-cutter process. Every addict experiences addiction differently, and every addict has a unique path of recovery. This workbook will complement your existing approaches to recovery whether they are 12-step programs, treatment centers, psychotherapy, and/or coaching.

Purposeful recovery is a hybrid term to describe another dimension of addiction recovery which isn’t always emphasized in the traditional places where one receives support. By using a strengths-based approach derived from both coaching and positive psychology, you ll have the opportunity to revitalize dormant aspects of yourself. As a result, the possibilities of adding deeper meaning and clearer direction to your recovery will expand and become more and more evident to you.

The exercises in this book will help you stretch beyond your comfort zone as you move into the next chapter of recovery. Thinking bigger than ever before will reveal limitless possibilities as you create purpose and direction.


It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews experts who share fresh perspectives and strategies for other clinicians as well as those in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors.

Ep. 1 Leslie Quinn, LMFT

Ep. 2 David Fawcett – Chemsex

Ep. 3 Andrew Susskind Conversation

Ep. 4 Emotional Sobriety

Ep. 5 Dr. Patti Britton – Sex Coaching

Ep. 6 The Gratitude of Loss

Ep. 7 EMDR Therapy with Claudia Lewis, LMFT

Ep. 8 A Discussion About Shame

Ep. 9 There are Many Paths to Recovery

Ep. 10 Narcissism and Sex Addiction

Ep. 11 Nancy Sobel – Group Therapy

Ep. 12 The Rhythm Within

Ep. 13 Regulating the Nervous System

Ep. 14 Marty Simpson – Formal Disclosure

Ep. 15 Andrew Susskind – Cultivating Contentment

Ep. 16 Carol Jeurgensen Sheets – Couples Healing

Ep. 17 Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino – Sexual Healing

Ep. 18 Jan Bergstrom, LHMC – Childhood Trauma and Sexual Healing

Ep. 19 Andrew Susskind and Sue Merlino – Breaking Down the Walls

Guest Appearances

Sex, Love and Addiction” with Robert Weiss, MSW, PhD

Sex Help with Carol the Coach” with Carol Sheets, LCSW

Inner Voice-Heartfelt Chat” with Dr. Foojan

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