Ending compulsive sexual behavior is just the beginning. Drawing on personal and professional experience, psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and co-dependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken-heartedness. He offers strategies to cultivate sustainable sexual sobriety, sharing his own healing narrative, as well as those of others who’ve chosen to bear their truths. No one is ever too hurt or isolated to achieve reliable relationships and emotional intimacy. This is a guidebook for every person seeking long-term healing from sex addiction.
Recovery from addiction is not a cookie-cutter process. Every addict experiences addiction differently, and every addict has a unique path of recovery. This workbook will complement your existing approaches to recovery whether they are 12-step programs, treatment centers, psychotherapy, and/or coaching.
Purposeful recovery is a hybrid term to describe another dimension of addiction recovery which isn’t always emphasized in the traditional places where one receives support. By using a strengths-based approach derived from both coaching and positive psychology, you ll have the opportunity to revitalize dormant aspects of yourself. As a result, the possibilities of adding deeper meaning and clearer direction to your recovery will expand and become more and more evident to you.
The exercises in this book will help you stretch beyond your comfort zone as you move into the next chapter of recovery. Thinking bigger than ever before will reveal limitless possibilities as you create purpose and direction.
Podcasts
It’s Not About The Sex is a podcast based on the book by the same name. Psychotherapist Andrew Susskind examines issues such as shame, grief, narcissism, and codependency to demonstrate how people use out-of-control sexual behavior to cope with broken heartedness. Each podcast he interviews experts who share fresh perspectives and strategies for other clinicians as well as those in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors.
Ep. 1 Troubled Couples – Leslie Quinn, LMFT
Ep. 2 Chemsex – David Fawcett, Ph.D
Ep. 3 It’s Not About the Sex – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 4 Emotional Sobriety – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 5 Sex Coaching – Dr. Patti Britton
Ep. 6 The Gratitude of Loss – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 7 EMDR Therapy – Claudia Lewis, LMFT
Ep. 8 Shame Resiliency – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 9 Is 12-Step The Only Option? – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 10 Narcissism and Sex Addiction – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 11 Group Therapy – Nancy Sobel, Psy.D.
Ep. 12 The Rhythm Within – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 13 Regulating the Nervous System – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 14 Formal Disclosure – Marty Simpson, LMFT, CSAT
Ep. 15 Cultivating Contentment – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 16 Treating Partners – Carol Jeurgensen Sheets, LCSW, CSAT
Ep. 17 Sexual Healing – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 18 Childhood Trauma and Sexual Healing – Jan Bergstrom, LHMC
Ep. 19 Breaking Down the Walls – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 20 Somatic Experiencing – Blair Smith, LMFT, SEP
Ep. 21 Codependency and Boundaries – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 22 Prodependence – Robert Weiss, Ph.D., MSW
Ep. 23 Meaning, Purpose and Legacy – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 24 Relationship Coaching for Betrayed Partners – Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, SEP
Ep. 25 Coping with Covid-19 – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 26 Career Coaching and Recovery – Daisy Swan
Ep. 27 Forgiveness and Addiction – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 28 Healthy Sex – Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D.
Ep. 29 Guided Relaxation – Andrew Susskind
Ep. 30 Psychopharmacology and Addiction Recovery – Matthew Goldenberg, D.O.
Ep. 31 Self-Compassion and Mindful Recovery – Jen Davis, AMFT
Ep. 32 Covid-Stamina – Susskind and Merlino
EP. 33 Queer Codependency – Grace Riddell, LICSW and Barry McNinch, MS
EP. 34 Anger as an Ally – Susskind and Merlino
EP. 35 Inner Child Recovery Process – Eddie Capparucci, LPC
EP. 36 Obsession and Love Addiction Revisited – Susskind and Merlino
EP. 37 Sexual Boundaries for Professionals – Tracy Zemansky, Ph.D., CSAT-S
Ep. 38 Home for the Holidays – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 39 DBT and Recovery – Elle Michele, LMFT
Ep. 40 Catch Your Breath (a 4-minute exercise) – Susskind
Ep. 41 Brainspotting – Roby Abeles, Psy.D.
Ep. 42 The Resilience of Recovery – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 43 Trauma and Addiction Recovery – Tom Pecca, MA, LMHC, CSAT, CTT
Ep. 44 Working with Hurt – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 45 Straight Men Who Have Sex with Men – Joe Kort, Ph.D.
Ep. 46 Taming the Inner Critic – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 47 Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Douglas Braun-Harvey MFT, CGP
Ep. 48 Progressive Muscle Relaxation – Susskind
Ep. 49 Reimagining Midlife – Buck Dodson
Ep. 50 30-Years in Review: 1991-2021 – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 51 Fantasy as a Survival Strategy – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 52 Polyvagal Theory & Internal Family Systems – Terra Holbrook, LCSW, CADC, CSAT
Ep. 53 Sex Addiction No More – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 54 Addict America: The Lost Connection – Dr. Carol Clark
Ep 55 Sex, Money and Power – Debra Kaplan, MBA, CMAT, CSAT-S
Ep 56 The Opposite of Addiction – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 57 The Curious Voyage – Cynthia Schwartzberg, LCSW
Ep. 58 Intimacy Avoidance – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 59 Lonely for the Holidays – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 60 The Eating Disorder Trap – Robyn Goldberg, RDN
Ep. 62 Examining the Five Love Languages – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 63 Current Research Behind Compulsive Sexual Behavior – Dr. Shane Kraus
Ep. 64 Assessing Problematic Sexual Behavior – Bill Herring, LCSW, CSAT
Ep. 65 A Peaceful Place Guided Meditation – Susskind
Ep. 66 Chinese Medicine and Trauma – Dr. Lucy Postolov
Ep. 67 Unresolved Trauma and Sexualized Drug Use – Mellissa McCracken, CADC-II
Ep. 68 Demystifying Group Therapy – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 69 A Day at the Beach Guided Imagery – Susskind
Ep. 70 Cutting Edge Treatment for Chronic Pain – Dr. Mel Pohl
Ep. 71. The ABC’s of Dual Diagnosis – Susskind and Merlino
Ep. 72 Psilocybin? Ketamine? MDMA?: Cutting-Edge Therapeutic Approaches – Dr. Eva Altobelli
Ep. 73 Brainspotting: A Step by Step Approach – Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 74 Gut Health and Addiction – Dr. Edison DeMello
Ep. 75 Interview with Sue Merlino
Ep. 76 Self-Compassion Break – Susskind
Ep. 77 Positive Psychology and Coaching – Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 78 Sexual Integrity – Dr. Steven Davidson
Ep. 79 The MindTravel Experience – Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 80 The Reigniting Intimate Connection – Linda Landon, PCC
Ep. 81 Got Consultation? Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 82 Beyond Anti-Depressants: TMS as an Alternative – Dr. Martha Koo
Ep. 83 Visioning Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 84 Visioning Exercise – Susskind
Ep. 85 Mission: Joy – Finding Happiness in troubled Times Susskind & Merlino
Ep. 86 Practical Psychotherapist- Joni Lavick, LMFT
Guest Appearances
Conversations from the Couch with Leah Briick
The Guiding Compass Podcast with Sandra Kushnir
Life in Recovery Podcast with Ren Koi
Sober Nation with Jonathan Sylvester
Sex, Love, and Addiction with Robert Weiss, MSW, PhD
Sex Help with Carol the Coach with Carol Sheets, LCSW
Inner Voice-Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan
Porn Brain Rewire – Dr. Trish Leigh and Andrew Susskind