Andrew Susskind

Healing Hurt from the Inside Out (Part 1)

Hurt is a designer emotion. It’s the hub of the wheel surrounded by anger, sadness, disappointment, disillusionment and shame. When you feel deeply hurt, it leaves you with an emotional wound that requires close attention. Putting a band-aid on it won’t heal it. You need to keep it clean, change the emotional dressing daily and give it oxygen until the healing process unfolds. Sometimes hurt doesn’t go away entirely, but instead, it offers perspective and less acute pain eventually. But what does hurt have . . .

March 17, 2021
Anger Emotions Separateness Shame

The Road to Resilience (Part 2)

We all face adversity and we all build resilience. These practices, tools and strategies give you the opportunity for nervous system regulation, resilience and overall resourcefulness. As a result, you will feel more buoyant . . .

February 24, 2021
Dysregulation Gratitude Nervous System Psychotherapy Resilience Somatic Awareness

The Road to Resilience (Part 1)

I’ve always liked the word resilience. Maybe it’s how the word sounds or maybe it’s what it means to me, but it’s always held significance in my life. I believe that resilience can be a superpower that shows up after life’s challenges are thrown in your way—sometimes . . .

February 10, 2021
Families Relapse Resilience Sobriety Trauma

The Necessity of Pleasure (Part 2)

Pleasure is not only a concept—it’s an action. Here we will look at specific ways to safely explore pleasure as a strategy for long-term freedom and sexual . . .

January 28, 2021
Brokenheartedness Families Recovery Self-Pleasure Sexual Behavior Twelve Steps

The Necessity of Pleasure (Part 1)

Face it. It’s been a few hundred years since Puritanical beliefs thrived in early America when sex for pleasure was seen as morally wrong. Yet, religious dogma continues to exist in our society today, and some faith communities still contribute to confusion and shame based on rigid, outdated rules . . .

January 11, 2021
Families Porn Religion Sexual Behavior

Obsession Re-visited (Part 2)

The following suggestions provide a therapeutic direction which can establish new ways of relating to yourself and others. Here are some possible ways to give the obsessive mind something else to do . . .

December 17, 2020
Love Addiction Meditation Obsession Relationships Self-Compassion SLAA

Obsession Re-visited (Part 1)

She woke up every morning thinking about her and went to bed each night ruminating about her. As much as she wanted to focus on other things, Sophie’s thoughts would return to Julie like a magnet. By the time Sophie found her way to my office, she looked depleted . . .

December 3, 2020
Fantasy Love Addiction Obsession Panic Rage

The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 2)

Recovery from compulsive sex is an imperfect road, and we have to embrace a paradigm shift to believe that relapse is a growth opportunity. Practicing imperfection requires a mindful approach to implementing helpful and sustainable healing strategies. Try not to follow these ideas too perfectly, but instead, consider which ones . . .

November 20, 2020
Brokenheartedness Emotions Recovery Sexual Behavior Sexual Sobriety Shame

The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 1)

I was a child perfectionist. Not your average version of perfection, but a card-carrying, practicing, CEO of childhood perfectionism. If I didn’t understand instructions given to me by my Hebrew teacher, I would have a meltdown. If my t-shirts were not hung up neatly on matching hangers in my closet, I would get anxious. If I didn’t finish everything on my to-do list, I would go into a shame spiral. It wasn’t classic . . .

November 6, 2020
Brokenheartedness Emotions Recovery Sexual Behavior Sexual Sobriety Shame

What’s the Purpose? (Part 2)

After the problematic sexual behavior has waned, you’re left with a blank canvas that holds endless possibilities. Yet, it can also be quite overwhelming and uncertain. Now that the compulsive sex is gone, who am I? What do I really want . . .

October 21, 2020
Meaning/Purpose Psychology Recovery Sexual Behavior Spirituality

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Andrew Susskind

Healing Hurt from the Inside Out (Part 1)

The Road to Resilience (Part 2)

The Road to Resilience (Part 1)

The Necessity of Pleasure (Part 2)

The Necessity of Pleasure (Part 1)

Obsession Re-visited (Part 2)

Obsession Re-visited (Part 1)

The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 2)

The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 1)

What’s the Purpose? (Part 2)