Pleasure is not only a concept—it’s an action. Here we will look at specific ways to safely explore pleasure as a strategy for long-term freedom and sexual . . .
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The Necessity of Pleasure (Part 1)
Face it. It’s been a few hundred years since Puritanical beliefs thrived in early America when sex for pleasure was seen as morally wrong. Yet, religious dogma continues to exist in our society today, and some faith communities still contribute to confusion and shame based on rigid, outdated rules . . .
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- January 11, 2021
- Families Porn Religion Sexual Behavior
Obsession Re-visited (Part 2)
The following suggestions provide a therapeutic direction which can establish new ways of relating to yourself and others. Here are some possible ways to give the obsessive mind something else to do . . .
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- December 17, 2020
- Love Addiction Meditation Obsession Relationships Self-Compassion SLAA
Obsession Re-visited (Part 1)
She woke up every morning thinking about her and went to bed each night ruminating about her. As much as she wanted to focus on other things, Sophie’s thoughts would return to Julie like a magnet. By the time Sophie found her way to my office, she looked depleted . . .
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- December 3, 2020
- Fantasy Love Addiction Obsession Panic Rage
The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 2)
Recovery from compulsive sex is an imperfect road, and we have to embrace a paradigm shift to believe that relapse is a growth opportunity. Practicing imperfection requires a mindful approach to implementing helpful and sustainable healing strategies. Try not to follow these ideas too perfectly, but instead, consider which ones . . .
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- November 20, 2020
- Brokenheartedness Emotions Recovery Sexual Behavior Sexual Sobriety Shame
The Imperfection of Recovery (Part 1)
I was a child perfectionist. Not your average version of perfection, but a card-carrying, practicing, CEO of childhood perfectionism. If I didn’t understand instructions given to me by my Hebrew teacher, I would have a meltdown. If my t-shirts were not hung up neatly on matching hangers in my closet, I would get anxious. If I didn’t finish everything on my to-do list, I would go into a shame spiral. It wasn’t classic . . .
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- November 6, 2020
- Brokenheartedness Emotions Recovery Sexual Behavior Sexual Sobriety Shame
What’s the Purpose? (Part 2)
After the problematic sexual behavior has waned, you’re left with a blank canvas that holds endless possibilities. Yet, it can also be quite overwhelming and uncertain. Now that the compulsive sex is gone, who am I? What do I really want . . .
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- October 21, 2020
- Meaning/Purpose Psychology Recovery Sexual Behavior Spirituality
What’s the Purpose? (Part 1)
After the problematic sexual behavior has waned, you’re left with a blank canvas that holds endless possibilities. Yet, it can also be quite overwhelming and uncertain. Now that the compulsive sex is gone, who am I? What do I really want . . .
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- October 7, 2020
- Meaning/Purpose Psychology Recovery Sexual Behavior Spirituality
Anger as an Ally Part 2)
Normalize anger as a natural, necessary emotion. All of your feelings are valid and useful. By editing or censoring your anger, you’re removing a vital part of yourself. All emotions are welcome to the table. Identify and name your anger . . .
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- September 23, 2020
- Anger Brokenheartedness Emotions Families Rage
Anger as an Ally (Part 1)
Anger was palpable in my home. Unfortunately, my parents were unhappy in their marriage as far back as I can remember, leaving them with a hefty dose of rage and grief. I’m sure there was a time when they had fun and high hopes for a fulfilling life together, but these early dreams . . .
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- September 9, 2020
- Anger Brokenheartedness Emotions Families Rage