Compulsive sexual behavior can be the cause and the effect of a dysregulated nervous system, but what do you do to regulate yourself more efficiently? In order for balance and regulation to become a familiar internal state, you’ll need to integrate a self-regulation or co-regulation practice into your daily lifestyle. This can only occur, though, when you’ve learned . . .
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It’s Not The Mistakes That Count (Part 2)
In my therapy office, clients reveal setbacks all the time, and together
we process these so-called mistakes. So what do you do if you’ve been
in recovery for a while and then go off your plan? The tendency may be
to isolate and keep it a secret, but this will only perpetuate the shame
that goes along with the slip-up. Instead, contact someone you trust as
soon as possible—preferably someone in recovery. They will offer their
version . . .
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- February 25, 2022
- Healing Recovery Relapse Self-Compassion Spirituality
It’s Not The Mistakes That Count (Part 1)
After a slip or relapse, stay out of self-judgment to prevent yourself from
falling into a shame spiral. Process it with a trusted confidant as soon as
possible. Your setback happened for a reason. Were you trying to unwind
some internal pressure? Express pent-up anger? Soothe yourself? Ask
yourself . . .
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- February 11, 2022
- Relapse Self-Compassion Spirituality
From Brokenheartedness to Self-Compassion (Part 2)
Now that you’ve identified the necessity for Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) in your recovery, how do you integrate these ideas . . .
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- April 28, 2021
- Brokenheartedness Guilt Healing Hurt Self-Compassion Self-Loathng Shame
From Brokenheartedness to Self-Compassion (Part 1)
Brokenheartedness is often the cause, and compulsive sexual behavior is one of the effects. Of course there is much more nuance to this equation; however, healing the heartbreak requires self-compassion to ease the shame, hurt, self-loathing . . .
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- April 14, 2021
- Brokenheartedness Guilt Hurt Self-Compassion Self-Loathng Shame
Healing Hurt from the Inside Out (Part 2)
Now that you are developing a fresh, new perspective to metabolize hurt, here are some specific action steps to apply to your repertoire of possibilities . . .
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- March 31, 2021
- Emotions Healing Hurt Resentment Self-Compassion
Obsession Re-visited (Part 2)
The following suggestions provide a therapeutic direction which can establish new ways of relating to yourself and others. Here are some possible ways to give the obsessive mind something else to do . . .
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- December 17, 2020
- Love Addiction Meditation Obsession Relationships Self-Compassion SLAA