Andrew Susskind

Andrew Susskind, LCSW, SEP, CGP, specializes in the following areas: relationships, sexual addiction recovery, addictions, trauma and codependency, grief and loss, and mid-life transitions. Andrew is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Somatic Experiencing and Brainspotting Practitioner, and a Certified Group Psychotherapist. He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst and a Master of Social Welfare degree from UCLA. Andrew has worked with individuals, couples, families and groups in his practice. Speaking, writing, and training are dimensions of Andrew’s ongoing desire to learn and grow. He gives presentations to numerous post-graduate training programs and community organizations and has taught medical students in the UCLA School of Medicine Doctoring Program.

Safer Sex Revisited (Part Two: An Excerpt from It’s Not About the Sex)

When do you experience nurturing, safer touch—both sexually and platonically? How is it for you?

Seth: With my partner, touch feels safe. Sometimes I’ll go for a therapeutic massage. Also, when hugging friends.

Colin: I experience healthy, safe touch with a massage therapist I work with who is nurturing and respectful. I also experience it with brothers in the program when we . . .

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Safer Sex Revisited (Part One: An Excerpt from It’s Not About the Sex)

In the 1980s, the concept of safer sex was developed in response to the AIDS crisis. It may be true that the only safe sex is abstinence; all forms of sex carry some degree of risk. But abstaining from sex is neither realistic nor desirable. Back in that time of uncertainty and fear, society endorsed cautious sexual choices. Today, nearly forty years later, the dilemma . . .

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Building Better Boundaries (Part 2)

In Part 1 we were building awareness and insight regarding better boundaries. Sometimes, boundaries can go too far and become rigid and isolating. Here are a few typical walls that you might use to protect yourself: Black-and-white thinking. This self-protective, rigid way of viewing yourself and others results in profound loneliness and unexpressed anger. Therefore, it acts . . .

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Building Better Boundaries (Part 1)

Anger is a misunderstood part of setting boundaries that often gets overlooked. Expressing anger safely and productively is a life energy that brings you closer to others when shared directly, honestly and clearly. If two people are open to the possibility of this type of dynamic communication, it’s an intimacy-builder. Anger doesn’t imply a high-decibel level, but instead . . .

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It’s Not The Mistakes That Count (Part 2)

In my therapy office, clients reveal setbacks all the time, and together
we process these so-called mistakes. So what do you do if you’ve been
in recovery for a while and then go off your plan? The tendency may be
to isolate and keep it a secret, but this will only perpetuate the shame
that goes along with the slip-up. Instead, contact someone you trust as
soon as possible—preferably someone in recovery. They will offer their
version . . .

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Meaning, Purpose, and Legacy (Part 1)

Spirituality, as I’ve mentioned before, is “whatever gives your life meaning.” You have the freedom to find it through your own heart rather than as others define it. A spiritual experience can take many forms—the simple enjoyment of an afternoon with a beloved pet, or on a hike through nature. Meaning and purpose in recovery tend to coalesce around big-ticket items like forgiveness, getting in touch . . .

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